Time to share my personal views after 4 years of breaking up with him. =)
I am seriously grateful to him for choosing to leave me at that point of time when I was hospitalised, despite the fact that he was being all so cruel by not even visiting me etc. That was the time when he can really leave me without me chasing him and stalking him everywhere. It made me alot stronger, and made me realise that I was not being myself anymore, I didn't even have a life of my own anymore.
The empty promises? Well, can't really blame him on that. Whenever we are in a relationship, we will always say things that I will love you forever / I will never leave you etc. Can you actually consider this promises? In some sense yes, but not totally a promise. These words are uttered because of the strong emotions felt at that point of time. Feelings and emotions are something that does't last forever (for your information, it really doesn't). That is why in a relationship, constant efforts to create sparks is so important, because feelings and emotions doesn't last. You got to keep working to re-ignite the flame or else it will just die away.
A piece of advice: Never hold someone to blame for empty promises such as "I will never ever leave you", because if the person really does, something wrong happened along the way that causes it to happen. Maybe the flame didn't have enough oxygen to carry on burning.
Noone knows what the future beholds, the one that might seem to be so right or even so perfect now might not eventually be the one who will be putting in the constant effort to make sure that the love does't die.
I will like to take this chance here to say a big thank you to the guy who made me stronger by leaving me 4 years ago. We are pretty good friends now and it made me realise that I was being such a fool 4 years back. =)
Peace out V.V
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hEy,I love some of the things tht you have just said.. Its about giving space.. Its about knowing what you are doing..and be positive.. we will become stronger after these conflicts..
What about mutual understanding and commitment? I believe its impt for long term relationship... Its that kind of effort and belief that pushes both parties to the extra mile and the next stage.
What do you think ya? can drop your views at loy_28@hotmail.com. I might not be able to remb this web again. tks tks
Hey, i'm a guy and i just experienced a breakup a week ago. It's really inspiring to read through your words and making me think hard. Continue blogging and i'll continue reading.
To Guo Xin:
There are alot of different aspects in a relationship to take note of and to work on. I might not be perfect on my views on it but I did tried my best to give a fuller view from my perspective. =) Sorry for leaving out mutual understand & commitment, but i guess that is pretty much the very basic in a relationship. =) Will touch on it in the following entries.
To Justin:
Hey dear, thanks for your support. =) Feel free to drop me an e-mail anytime you need some advice on a one-to-one basis. Cheer up k? =)
Words and thoughts from an old soul although I suspect you are very young.
Hi JSB,
Well, age doesn't matter. It the mentality and the experiences. =)
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