Long Distance Relationships

Can love withstand the tension of being apart for a long, long period of time?

I had been through a "long-distance relationship" before, noticed the word "had", it's past tense. I couldn't make pass it due to my weak determination.

My personal story:
I had feelings for him, although i can't really call it love, but it was a mutual feeling we had for each other. He was utimately sweet and caring towards me, and i know that he is a guy that will really take good care of me for the rest of my life. (don't ask me why, i just know it. =) ) Well, inevidently, he had to fly off to Brunei for NS despite my objections. I am just glad that he enjoyed his stay there.

We weren't together in status, although everyone thought that we were an item, we were never one although we did shared a special bond before.

What do i feel about Long-Distance Relationships?

First of all, i feel that it's cruel. I know the feeling of loving someone, wanting to be with someone, longing to spend time with someone... That someone special that you really want to share your life with and how torturous it is to be separated physically from the person. I do know that sometimes, the pain can be pretty overwhelming and tears will just flow out for no reasons even though you know that both of you still share that special love bond and are still madly in love with each other.

Will lack of communication destroy a relationship? It really really depends on the couple. I see some of my friends surviving long-term relationship like they have never been separated from each other before, and some of my other friends who dropped it like it has never existed before. The consequences is pretty much on two extreme end. Well, there can only be two consequences anyway, either you make it, or you break it.

Take a look within your heart, feel your heart and answer this question:
"Do you think that things will still be the same when your partner gets back? Will things get better? or will you feel that the gap is too far apart it's difficult to carry on?"

Most likely, I am sorry to say this, but things will never be the same. The world is revolving every single day, happenings in our life alter the way we behave abit by abit and trust me, when you see your partner again, you will notice a very very big change because you two have been apart for a very long time.

HOWEVER... (before you readers feel that I am being so negative about long distance relationship)

Appearance can change, personality can change, perspective towards things can change, everything can change, but... the love? the burning flame that has been surviving through the cold cold period of being apart? If what you two are experiencing is what i call "the love of your life", even if the sky becomes the sea, everything changed around you two, your love for each other will still remain the same. I call this the highest level of love. The love that nothing can change nor break. Love is blind. =)

How to survive a long-distance relationship?

***Please do not become a psycho and talk to the mirror everyday and pretend that you are talking to your other half and go mad okay? This is highly not advisable. PLEASE. =)

From my previous posts, mutual understanding, committment, trust, etc. all these comes into place during a long distance relationship. From what I've seen so far, not alot of couples can make it through a long-distance relationship. Well, i will say, although all the "love factors" are crucial during this point of time, the most most most important thing of all, the king factor is "belief". Believe in yourself, believe in him/her, believe in the love that both of you share, and last of all, believe that both of you will pull it through this period of "separation".

Believing in something isn't easy, but it ain't difficult as well. This analogy actually applies to all aspects of life not even in relationships, but in work as well. You got to believe and you must believe if you really want it bad enough.

For this, i wish someone all the best. You know who you are. Hugz.

For anything, and i really mean anything even from the most basic problems/trouble that you readers are facing, just drop me an e-mail @ geturlifeback@gmail.com .