Victim of "Love"

Just a life experience that I wish to share with you readers. =)

This happened when I was secondary 2 going secondary 3, at that point of time, I was still naive and very ignorant. It was then, when i started with my first boyfriend. It took me a lot of courage to actually accept him, knowing the fact that we might not have a future together because of my strict family background, and him being someone who doesn't know what he wants in the future and bums around.

The first month of relationship was fine, just like any honeymoon period, it was pure puppy love.

However, after the first month, things started changing. He became very abusive, both physically and verbally. He never fails to find fault with me, to scold me or even beat me up for no reason. He threaten to break up with me for no reason on my birthday that year but time and time again, I refused to let go due to my "then" thinking about him being my first love and thought that things could actually change for the better. I was totally wrong, he just carried on with his "outrageous" behaviour towards me, hurling vulgarities, physical abuse, and making me feel that I was worthless. I became like his slave.

This went on for a period of 1 year 3 months when i took the first step out of this torturous relationship. I told myself that I had enough. With the support of my friends, I got out of the deep drowning hole and started to learn how to stand on my own, and say "No" to him. I started going out with my friends, and step by step, I slowly forget him although the scars that he left within me, still haunt me sometimes.

I know that, there are girls or maybe even guys out there who did or maybe still experiencing a abusive partner. Please remember one point, noone deserves to be treated badly by their partners UNLESS you are doing the same too. Nevertheless, if two person starts getting abusive with each other, there is absolutely no point in carrying on the particular relationship.

Noone is worthless, you know that you deserve someone better if your partner doesn't know how to treat you right. Learn how to stand up for youself and say "No, I had enough". If it's very difficult for you to do so, get your friends to help. It will definitely hurt in the beginning, knowing that you've already gave in alot just to hold on to the relationship but ultimately, it's your own happiness in hands.

Abuse cases varies... If anyone of you out there are experiencing abuse from your partners and needs help, drop me an e-mail. I will try my best to help you in whatever ways I can.