Dear Readers,
GULB is officially coming back by the end of this week.
Kindly give me some time to organise the next few topics and I am sure that they will be of valuable advice. :)
I hope that i have not keep you all waiting for long.
Email me @ geturlifeback@gmail.com if you need any personal advice, or want me to share on any particular topics too.
Cheers to all.
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
Saturday, August 25, 2007
A touch of Friendship
Time to get away from love and romance for just this blog entry. =)
Friendship. Something that is simple yet hard to maintain at the same time.
I am the sort of person who will do anything for a friend, and one thing I am proud to say, is that I truly have friends around me who have extend a helping hand to me when I needed help, and shared the tears and laughters of my life.
Look around you, look at the people whom you call a friend. Are they truly your friends? Friendship last as long as how important both parties deem it is. It can be so strong for some, yet so fragile for others.
How to maintain a good friendship with a friend or friends that you truly appreciate and care for?
Frankly speaking, maintaining friendships and relationships, it is all pretty much the same, certain factors e.g. committment varies on how important the friend is to you.
Now the real problem lies in,
How to be a good friend? How to know if you are one?
When your friend meets with certain problems in life, although you might not be able to give him/her proper advices, it will be good to just be by him/her side to let him/her know that they are not alone. Not much people will be able to offer good advices on relationship/work-related problem, unless you are specifically a love coach or a consultant in some fields etc. Therefore it is highly not advisable to give advice to your friend if you are not strong in that field.
Being a good friend is simply being there for the person when he/she needs you. How much information you want to share between each other really depends on how close the two of you all are. So for this, I won't be able to say much, but trust is the main factor here. How much you are willing to share, is how much you trust a person. However, certain limitations comes especially when you two are colleagues or even direct competitors of each other.
Being a good friend requires you to be understanding. I always believe that anything and everything can be ironed out. Especially misunderstanding. A lot of friendships "broke" because of misunderstanding. It is because everyone always deem that friendship is nothing important, thus not putting in any effort to try to understand what went wrong, and to take the extra step to solve the problem.
Losing a friend is something really painful to me. However, it depends on how i lost the friend. If it is due to unforseen circumstances, or simply the friend refuse to explain to me why, I guess I will just let it go. No point pondering over it, especially if you know that the reason is going to be fake (which is usually very obvious).
I seriously urge everyone out there to review the friendships you have with your friends around you now. Keep your good friends closer to you, because these are the people who really cares for you. Make the extra effort to get to know them more (if you haven't), it really does helps to boost the friendship. =)
Remember, friendship is just as important as relationship, noone can live without a friend. =)
Friendship. Something that is simple yet hard to maintain at the same time.
I am the sort of person who will do anything for a friend, and one thing I am proud to say, is that I truly have friends around me who have extend a helping hand to me when I needed help, and shared the tears and laughters of my life.
Look around you, look at the people whom you call a friend. Are they truly your friends? Friendship last as long as how important both parties deem it is. It can be so strong for some, yet so fragile for others.
How to maintain a good friendship with a friend or friends that you truly appreciate and care for?
Frankly speaking, maintaining friendships and relationships, it is all pretty much the same, certain factors e.g. committment varies on how important the friend is to you.
Now the real problem lies in,
How to be a good friend? How to know if you are one?
When your friend meets with certain problems in life, although you might not be able to give him/her proper advices, it will be good to just be by him/her side to let him/her know that they are not alone. Not much people will be able to offer good advices on relationship/work-related problem, unless you are specifically a love coach or a consultant in some fields etc. Therefore it is highly not advisable to give advice to your friend if you are not strong in that field.
Being a good friend is simply being there for the person when he/she needs you. How much information you want to share between each other really depends on how close the two of you all are. So for this, I won't be able to say much, but trust is the main factor here. How much you are willing to share, is how much you trust a person. However, certain limitations comes especially when you two are colleagues or even direct competitors of each other.
Being a good friend requires you to be understanding. I always believe that anything and everything can be ironed out. Especially misunderstanding. A lot of friendships "broke" because of misunderstanding. It is because everyone always deem that friendship is nothing important, thus not putting in any effort to try to understand what went wrong, and to take the extra step to solve the problem.
Losing a friend is something really painful to me. However, it depends on how i lost the friend. If it is due to unforseen circumstances, or simply the friend refuse to explain to me why, I guess I will just let it go. No point pondering over it, especially if you know that the reason is going to be fake (which is usually very obvious).
I seriously urge everyone out there to review the friendships you have with your friends around you now. Keep your good friends closer to you, because these are the people who really cares for you. Make the extra effort to get to know them more (if you haven't), it really does helps to boost the friendship. =)
Remember, friendship is just as important as relationship, noone can live without a friend. =)
Thursday, August 9, 2007
*LYRICS of the HEART*
Dear readers,
I am back.. =) This entry is simple, but i know it can definitely relate to some.
Close your eyes and think of the one person who you love the most, the one person who was there with you, holding your hands, walking down the road of life, with a smile that totally melts your heart.
It doesn't matter whether the person is still with you, or has left you due to some misunderstanding or any more other reasons. Why you think of him/her, there will always be one special song.
Throughout my current relationship life, I can say that there is only one close to perfect guy I have been with, he is what i will call a soulmate. Someone who truly understands everything I am, my needs, my wants, even when i move a single inch when I am sleeping, he will know what I am dreaming off. Yes, he is that close to my heart, he became part of me.
The song that will always remind me of him:
"Chasing Cars" by "Snow Patrol"
We'll do it all
Everything
On our own
We don't need
Anything
Or anyone
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world
I don't quite know
How to say, how I feel
Those three words
'l say too much
But not enough
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world
Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden
That's bursting into life
Let's waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads
I need your grace
To remind me
To find my own
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world
Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden
That's bursting into life
All that I am
All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes
They're all I can see
I don't know where
Confused about how is well
Just know that these things will never
Change for us at all
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world
This song totally reminds me of my beautiful 2 years relationship with him. Till now, I still can't find the courage to get him back, because I know that I will not be able to give him what I will be promising him. So I wish him happiness, and hope that he can find someone better. Who knows what will happen in the future right? =)
Find that one special song that reminds you of the one person who was once or currently so close to you, that song will either make you cry because you feel the pain in your heart, or it will make you smile like me, because it once happen. The magical feeling of being in love.
Peace out people. =)
Huggies to all those who need a hug right now! =p
I am back.. =) This entry is simple, but i know it can definitely relate to some.
Close your eyes and think of the one person who you love the most, the one person who was there with you, holding your hands, walking down the road of life, with a smile that totally melts your heart.
It doesn't matter whether the person is still with you, or has left you due to some misunderstanding or any more other reasons. Why you think of him/her, there will always be one special song.
Throughout my current relationship life, I can say that there is only one close to perfect guy I have been with, he is what i will call a soulmate. Someone who truly understands everything I am, my needs, my wants, even when i move a single inch when I am sleeping, he will know what I am dreaming off. Yes, he is that close to my heart, he became part of me.
The song that will always remind me of him:
"Chasing Cars" by "Snow Patrol"
We'll do it all
Everything
On our own
We don't need
Anything
Or anyone
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world
I don't quite know
How to say, how I feel
Those three words
'l say too much
But not enough
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world
Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden
That's bursting into life
Let's waste time
Chasing cars
Around our heads
I need your grace
To remind me
To find my own
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world
Forget what we're told
Before we get too old
Show me a garden
That's bursting into life
All that I am
All that I ever was
Is here in your perfect eyes
They're all I can see
I don't know where
Confused about how is well
Just know that these things will never
Change for us at all
If I lay here
If I just lay here
Would you lie with me
And just forget the world
This song totally reminds me of my beautiful 2 years relationship with him. Till now, I still can't find the courage to get him back, because I know that I will not be able to give him what I will be promising him. So I wish him happiness, and hope that he can find someone better. Who knows what will happen in the future right? =)
Find that one special song that reminds you of the one person who was once or currently so close to you, that song will either make you cry because you feel the pain in your heart, or it will make you smile like me, because it once happen. The magical feeling of being in love.
Peace out people. =)
Huggies to all those who need a hug right now! =p
Thursday, July 26, 2007
Finding youself (myself too!)
Today's topic is about finding yourself.
I am sure that everyone of us here, has experienced what we called a "break-down" period. A state of which you just feel so tired, mentally and even physically and simply couldn't find the strength to move on. I am not perfect, and i do have my break-down periods.
This entry is more about myself, but i know that some people can actually relate to it.
I am juggling between two jobs, a full time job as a sales coordinator in a hotel and being a freelance model. I hardly have enough rest on weekdays due to the late night runway rehearsals and shows that I am doing on the second and third week of the month. Not to complain, I love and enjoy what I am doing as a runway model, because it has always been a childhood dream to walk up that stage just for that few minutes. The feeling is simply great.
However, lately, i came to a decision to quit my hotelier's job. Modelling is just a sub reason of why i quitted, but the main reason is, I am lost. Lost in the sea of never-ending work that I have been trying to battle ever since i started work at the hotel. After thinking everything through, I know that I am not cut out to be a hotelier, not because i can't, but i just didn't have the passion to.
After working in the hotel for 4 months, I realise that having passion in what you do is the top most important thing, if not you will never put your heart into it. I use to soar during the days when i was working as an event coordinator with my old company, but I felt that i have achieved nothing so far in my 4 months of service in my hotel line. Doesn't all these boils down to just one word, "passion". =)
Finding myself; This is very very important to me now, and it is also very crucial to all of you out there to know what you want, what you need, and who you really are, because only when you know who you are, you are able to define your goals in life, subsequently mapping out how you want to achieve your goals.
I am someone who wants to work for something I am passionate about, it is never about how much I am being paid, but how much I can really contribute to my job. I believe that if i really love my job, i will be able to excel in it. The same goes out to everyone of you. Afterall, although money might be a very big factor, happiness is what that keeps someone determined to stay alive. Obviously, if by earning lots of money brings you happiness, then i got nothing to say. =)
People, wish me luck after the 6 August 2007 where my service at the hotel will be terminated. and look forward to more updates which will be coming up real soon...
In the meanwhile, same thing once again, e-mail me at geturlifeback@gmail.com for any advice that you need... I am always here.. reply guaranteed in 24 hours and this service is 100% free. =p
I am sure that everyone of us here, has experienced what we called a "break-down" period. A state of which you just feel so tired, mentally and even physically and simply couldn't find the strength to move on. I am not perfect, and i do have my break-down periods.
This entry is more about myself, but i know that some people can actually relate to it.
I am juggling between two jobs, a full time job as a sales coordinator in a hotel and being a freelance model. I hardly have enough rest on weekdays due to the late night runway rehearsals and shows that I am doing on the second and third week of the month. Not to complain, I love and enjoy what I am doing as a runway model, because it has always been a childhood dream to walk up that stage just for that few minutes. The feeling is simply great.
However, lately, i came to a decision to quit my hotelier's job. Modelling is just a sub reason of why i quitted, but the main reason is, I am lost. Lost in the sea of never-ending work that I have been trying to battle ever since i started work at the hotel. After thinking everything through, I know that I am not cut out to be a hotelier, not because i can't, but i just didn't have the passion to.
After working in the hotel for 4 months, I realise that having passion in what you do is the top most important thing, if not you will never put your heart into it. I use to soar during the days when i was working as an event coordinator with my old company, but I felt that i have achieved nothing so far in my 4 months of service in my hotel line. Doesn't all these boils down to just one word, "passion". =)
Finding myself; This is very very important to me now, and it is also very crucial to all of you out there to know what you want, what you need, and who you really are, because only when you know who you are, you are able to define your goals in life, subsequently mapping out how you want to achieve your goals.
I am someone who wants to work for something I am passionate about, it is never about how much I am being paid, but how much I can really contribute to my job. I believe that if i really love my job, i will be able to excel in it. The same goes out to everyone of you. Afterall, although money might be a very big factor, happiness is what that keeps someone determined to stay alive. Obviously, if by earning lots of money brings you happiness, then i got nothing to say. =)
People, wish me luck after the 6 August 2007 where my service at the hotel will be terminated. and look forward to more updates which will be coming up real soon...
In the meanwhile, same thing once again, e-mail me at geturlifeback@gmail.com for any advice that you need... I am always here.. reply guaranteed in 24 hours and this service is 100% free. =p
Friday, July 13, 2007
Victim of "Love"
Just a life experience that I wish to share with you readers. =)
This happened when I was secondary 2 going secondary 3, at that point of time, I was still naive and very ignorant. It was then, when i started with my first boyfriend. It took me a lot of courage to actually accept him, knowing the fact that we might not have a future together because of my strict family background, and him being someone who doesn't know what he wants in the future and bums around.
The first month of relationship was fine, just like any honeymoon period, it was pure puppy love.
However, after the first month, things started changing. He became very abusive, both physically and verbally. He never fails to find fault with me, to scold me or even beat me up for no reason. He threaten to break up with me for no reason on my birthday that year but time and time again, I refused to let go due to my "then" thinking about him being my first love and thought that things could actually change for the better. I was totally wrong, he just carried on with his "outrageous" behaviour towards me, hurling vulgarities, physical abuse, and making me feel that I was worthless. I became like his slave.
This went on for a period of 1 year 3 months when i took the first step out of this torturous relationship. I told myself that I had enough. With the support of my friends, I got out of the deep drowning hole and started to learn how to stand on my own, and say "No" to him. I started going out with my friends, and step by step, I slowly forget him although the scars that he left within me, still haunt me sometimes.
I know that, there are girls or maybe even guys out there who did or maybe still experiencing a abusive partner. Please remember one point, noone deserves to be treated badly by their partners UNLESS you are doing the same too. Nevertheless, if two person starts getting abusive with each other, there is absolutely no point in carrying on the particular relationship.
Noone is worthless, you know that you deserve someone better if your partner doesn't know how to treat you right. Learn how to stand up for youself and say "No, I had enough". If it's very difficult for you to do so, get your friends to help. It will definitely hurt in the beginning, knowing that you've already gave in alot just to hold on to the relationship but ultimately, it's your own happiness in hands.
Abuse cases varies... If anyone of you out there are experiencing abuse from your partners and needs help, drop me an e-mail. I will try my best to help you in whatever ways I can.
This happened when I was secondary 2 going secondary 3, at that point of time, I was still naive and very ignorant. It was then, when i started with my first boyfriend. It took me a lot of courage to actually accept him, knowing the fact that we might not have a future together because of my strict family background, and him being someone who doesn't know what he wants in the future and bums around.
The first month of relationship was fine, just like any honeymoon period, it was pure puppy love.
However, after the first month, things started changing. He became very abusive, both physically and verbally. He never fails to find fault with me, to scold me or even beat me up for no reason. He threaten to break up with me for no reason on my birthday that year but time and time again, I refused to let go due to my "then" thinking about him being my first love and thought that things could actually change for the better. I was totally wrong, he just carried on with his "outrageous" behaviour towards me, hurling vulgarities, physical abuse, and making me feel that I was worthless. I became like his slave.
This went on for a period of 1 year 3 months when i took the first step out of this torturous relationship. I told myself that I had enough. With the support of my friends, I got out of the deep drowning hole and started to learn how to stand on my own, and say "No" to him. I started going out with my friends, and step by step, I slowly forget him although the scars that he left within me, still haunt me sometimes.
I know that, there are girls or maybe even guys out there who did or maybe still experiencing a abusive partner. Please remember one point, noone deserves to be treated badly by their partners UNLESS you are doing the same too. Nevertheless, if two person starts getting abusive with each other, there is absolutely no point in carrying on the particular relationship.
Noone is worthless, you know that you deserve someone better if your partner doesn't know how to treat you right. Learn how to stand up for youself and say "No, I had enough". If it's very difficult for you to do so, get your friends to help. It will definitely hurt in the beginning, knowing that you've already gave in alot just to hold on to the relationship but ultimately, it's your own happiness in hands.
Abuse cases varies... If anyone of you out there are experiencing abuse from your partners and needs help, drop me an e-mail. I will try my best to help you in whatever ways I can.
Monday, July 2, 2007
Dealing with your Parents' Divorce
The divorce rate in Singapore is seriously increasing. Apart from me talking about how two person should live their life together, how about coping with your own parents splitting up?
Well, I am sure that there are people who has either undergo such an issue in their family, or could even be going through it now.
Imagine late at night say 2am, you hear screamings and things breaking coming from your parents' room, sisters crying out of fear, and you simply feel so useless because in no way, you can actually interfere in your parents' matter. and the thunder comes striking down, "I want a divorce!"
Your heart sank... Tears just flow out of your eyes uncontrollably. You don't exactly seem to understand what has happened, and neither can you foresee what will be going to happen.
There is alot of consequences when a family split up, and the "parents" have to be able to handle the aftermath.
I will never blame my parents if they finally decide to get a divorce, because i really don't want to see both of them suffering anymore, particularly for my mom. I know my dad will be fine on his own, especially now that he has a proper job and is well-taken care of by his boss. The two person I am most worried about, my two younger sisters. They are still young, and they need both their parents by their side now that they are growing up. Besides, asking them to choose between my dad and mom will totally traumatise them. Life will never be the same after your parents split up, I know that my life will not be the same soon.
As the second eldest in the family, I can only say that the way to deal with the split up, is to stay strong. Set a good role model for your younger siblings as they will always be looking up to you, and going to you asking you why all these will happen. Be patient with your younger siblings as it can get quite frustrating as they won't be able to understand even if you explain to them.
Basically, it is really heart-breaking to see your parents splitting up, but always remember that, life goes on. You might not see one of them everyday, but at least, know that it is for the better. Always be there to guide along your younger siblings because they need you. I can never say the words, "Don't let it affect you so much" because it does affect, and it affects you on a big scale.
For me, I know that I will learn how to cope with it when that feaful day arrive.
Till then, if anyone out there needs help, please do just drop me an e-mail at geturlifeback@gmail.com
Peace.
Well, I am sure that there are people who has either undergo such an issue in their family, or could even be going through it now.
Imagine late at night say 2am, you hear screamings and things breaking coming from your parents' room, sisters crying out of fear, and you simply feel so useless because in no way, you can actually interfere in your parents' matter. and the thunder comes striking down, "I want a divorce!"
Your heart sank... Tears just flow out of your eyes uncontrollably. You don't exactly seem to understand what has happened, and neither can you foresee what will be going to happen.
There is alot of consequences when a family split up, and the "parents" have to be able to handle the aftermath.
I will never blame my parents if they finally decide to get a divorce, because i really don't want to see both of them suffering anymore, particularly for my mom. I know my dad will be fine on his own, especially now that he has a proper job and is well-taken care of by his boss. The two person I am most worried about, my two younger sisters. They are still young, and they need both their parents by their side now that they are growing up. Besides, asking them to choose between my dad and mom will totally traumatise them. Life will never be the same after your parents split up, I know that my life will not be the same soon.
As the second eldest in the family, I can only say that the way to deal with the split up, is to stay strong. Set a good role model for your younger siblings as they will always be looking up to you, and going to you asking you why all these will happen. Be patient with your younger siblings as it can get quite frustrating as they won't be able to understand even if you explain to them.
Basically, it is really heart-breaking to see your parents splitting up, but always remember that, life goes on. You might not see one of them everyday, but at least, know that it is for the better. Always be there to guide along your younger siblings because they need you. I can never say the words, "Don't let it affect you so much" because it does affect, and it affects you on a big scale.
For me, I know that I will learn how to cope with it when that feaful day arrive.
Till then, if anyone out there needs help, please do just drop me an e-mail at geturlifeback@gmail.com
Peace.
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